Thursday, 23 June 2011
The Pandora's Box System filetype:pdf
What’s In “One Minute Mind Reading”?What is One Minute Mind Reading? . iv
packed into this Handbook and the Pandora’s Box System...
Different Types of Women? . 1
the only three things you’ll ever need to know about a woman...
An Unusual Discovery in Female Sexual Psychology . 3
how an argument with my girlfriend led to a dramatic discovery...
1,062 Women In Just 90 Days . 5
sounds like a lot of fun? you bet it was...
Read Her Mind In Just 3 Simple Steps 7
these important tricks tell you exactly what she’s thinking...
STEP 1: Read Her “Time Line” . 9
things to do and traps to avoid when you first meet a woman...
STEP 2: Read Her “Sex Line” . 11
things to do and traps to avoid when you’re trying to get her home...
STEP 3: Read Her “Relationship Line” 13
things to do and traps to avoid when you want to keep her around...
How To Use Pandora’s Box . 15
how to use these techniques to ditch rejection, forever...
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What Is One Minute Mind Reading?
by Vin DiCarlo
Have you ever wondered why women flirt one minute, and then
reject you if you make a move? How about what she really means,
behind all of her woman speak? Maybe you’d like to know when
or if a woman’s attracted to you... or how a specific woman would like to be
approached... or even specific topics of conversation proven to never die, or
leaving you searching for words while your mind goes blank.
I used to think that if I could read a woman’s mind, there would be so much less
guesswork. But until now, trying to guess what she’s thinking was literally that
– a blind guess. A shot in the dark. And overall, a waste of your time.
And because you couldn’t know what she’s thinking, all methods designed to
meet women relied on the same methodology, when you boil them down:
Step 1. Meet a woman.
Step 2. Say X, Y, Z to her
Step 3. Hopefully have sex with her.
Step 4. Rinse and repeat
With Step 4. Rinse and repeat being the worst offender of all. Because until
now, we didn’t know how to see why each woman is unique. And we couldn’t
tell her particular “flavors” of conversation, or preferences in a man. So all
techniques, even the ones I’ve taught you, were simply handed to you with
these instructions, “Say this to every beautiful woman you meet.”
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And hey, sometimes it works. Especially if the techniques came from a credible
source. But the dirty secret most pickup artists don’t want you to know is a 25-
50% success rate is astoundingly high. Even most men who professionally meet
women only succeed in picking up one out of four women they like.
Why so low? Well, I’ll explain that in just a second... the real question is why
not a different technique for each and every woman you meet? Well, that’s
simple: Using the same technique is the SAFE way to meet women.
But the problem is, “safe” isn’t attractive to women.
Only absolute certainty and confidence is attractive.
And in the pages of this book – One Minute Mind Reading – this is exactly
what I’m going to give you: Complete Certainty over what she’s thinking, so
you’ll know what to say to her... you’ll know how to turn her on... and you’ll
keep a girl you like around forever, without even one painful fight or breakup.
This is a big promise, so I know you’re going to be skeptical. That’s fine,
you don’t need to believe me yet. Simply give me a minute of your time and
suspend your disbelief, until I finish explaining exactly how this system works,
to you.
Because by the end of this book, you’ll know with absolute certainty that you
can meet any girl you want, and have a near 100% shot at making her attracted
to you.
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Different Types of Women?
I’ve spent the last ten years training hundreds and hundreds of men around
the globe. They’ve learned how to meet, attract and start relationships with
the women of their dreams. And when I first meet a guy, and watch him
interact with women… I realize he’s already going a lot of things right!
I suspect that you and the average man I train are alike, in certain aspects. For
example: He knows a lot of techniques, probably more than he can effectively
use. He knows great ways to start conversations, and some tricks to keep it
going. He has a few techniques he knows to go for that first kiss and more…
… So he knows enough “stuff,” but he isn’t getting the results he wants. I
notice that this is usually because he’s using “the right stuff” on the wrong kind
of woman. Let me explain:
Let’s take a compliment. Compliments are dynamite when used on the right
type of woman. Tell the right girl that her eyes are beautiful, and she melts like
winter snow. Her eyes go all “puppy dog” and she gently smiles back at you.
Tell this same compliment to another girl, and she simply shrugs it off. No
reaction. Not even a flinch.
Why would a compliment work that powerfully on one woman, and not even
register an effect on the other? It’s simple: Women are different. Women are
unique. And because she’s different and unique, she likes different things from
a man.
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Take two equally attractive women, for instance:
One woman has been with only three men in her life (all past boyfriends). She
has a serious boyfriend who walks her home from work every weekend. And
she goes to church with her family, every Sunday morning at 11am. Most of her
free time outside of dating is spent learning how to cook – her passion.
Another woman has slept with more than 30 men. She is constantly hit on,
because of how she dresses and carries herself. She’s worked as a stripper, as
a bartender and most recently a nude model. Most of her free time outside of
dating is spent starting a business, because she wants to be self-sufficient.
Would you really expect to say the same thing to both of these women, and
still have them both be attracted to you? Of course not, because all women
are different.
So you simply need to understand how different, and in what ways she’s
unique and you’ll have all the information you need to hold custom, tailored
conversations with her, that make her strongly attracted to you, each and
every time.
In order to do this, let’s find out just how unique she is...
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An Unusual Discovery In
Female Sexual Psychology
One day, I was with a girlfriend I had been with for 3 years. We had
just gotten into an argument about something so petty, I can’t even
remember what the argument was. I was tired, I had just gotten home
from a long day of work and the last thing I wanted to do was to fight. So I told
her, sarcastically, “Whatever baby. I’m in this for the long haul.” Making a joke
about being tied down.
I was expected for her to get mad. Instead, she stopped dead in her tracks, she
got all teary-eyed and she started making out with me. It felt like she had fallen
in love – and become incredibly aroused – by a simply comment I made. A
sarcastic one, at that!
It seemed like a strange situation to me. After all, with my past experiences with
women I knew that saying “Whatever baby” shouldn’t make a girl aroused like
that… but it did… Then I got to thinking, what if the comment being sarcastic
didn’t matter. What if she simply wanted to hear, “Baby, I’m in this for the long
haul” and as soon as I said it, it triggered her emotionally.
I thought back to times I had said odd things to girls and had them work. I
realized that the girls this worked on all had very odd things in common. For
instance: Girls who fell for unusual compliments tended to date around a lot
more than other girls. And girls who responded well to really romantic gestures
tended to have more partners than other girls, as well.
And all of a sudden it hit me... what if all women weren’t the same, but all
women weren’t different either? I started seeing partners in the women I’d
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dated, and I noticed a few “character types” coming up more than others.
The second I had that thought, a shudder ran down my spine. At that point I
knew I was onto something huge. And you’re about to learn something that will
make dating any woman and having sex with her, much easier...
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1,062 Women in 90 Days
At this point, I had all the information I needed. We’d been teaching
men around the world how to meet women for 5 years. So the
techniques that worked to turn women on, to keep women interested
and to make a woman attracted to you were already there. I focused on finding
out more about a woman’s innermost desires:
Me and my Trainers got our hands on every book on female psychology there
is. Titles like “Unhooked: How Young Women Pursue Sex, Delay Love, And
Lose At Both” by Laura Sessions Stepp, “Engendered Lives: A New Psychology
Of Women’s Experience” by Ellyn Kaschak, “Dilemmas of Desire” by Deborah
L. Tolman... as well as about a dozen more big books, and hundreds of
academic articles.
And we also started interviewing women. 1,062 to be exact. We interviewed
women by phone, we used surveys we set up... We found girls on Craigslist,
Facebook and of course, we meet over 630 of these women the old fashioned
way – walking up to her and saying hi.
Some of these women were “in” on the experiment. Many of these women were
not. All of these women lead to deeper understanding of how each woman is
unique, and most importantly, how you can use this uniqueness to make her
attracted to you.
During this time, we made an astonishing discovery -
Women do indeed have character types! And not simple “personality test” types
like Good Girl / Bad Girl, Party Girl or Cougar, either. There are 8 types of
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women in the same way there are 16 Myers-Briggs personality types.
And while we were coming up with these different types of women, then testing
them out in field to make sure our findings were accurate, we stumbled onto 3
simple questions that let you know exactly what she’s thinking or feeling at any
given time.
These simple questions tell you her type, and open up her mind so it’s easy to
read... so conversation keeps flowing for ever and ever... so you can turn her on
using the perfect words at the perfect times... and so you’ll never suffer through
a messy breakup with a girl you loved.
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Read Her Mind in Just 3 Simple Steps
Awoman’s thoughts aren’t that complex, just like my thoughts aren’t
that complex. Your thoughts aren’t that complex. You see, we’re all
capable of imagining an infinite number of things, but we spend most
of our time thinking about a handful of topics. We call this “mental habits” and
everybody’s got a few.
Individually, your mental habits are so different than mine, that if we laid
them out on paper, we could easily tell them apart. However, pick a topic like
dating... Or pick an even more important topic, like sex... And our mental habits
probably look exactly the same.
I spend time thinking about sex, and imagining the women I want. I have
fantasies and desires that are – statistically – pretty similar to yours. And
women function the same way, as well. Take all the women in the world, break
down their mental habits and you’ll find they think about dating and sex – a
LOT. More importantly, they focus on three main topics. These are the three
main topics we’re going to “mind read” and when you get skilled at reading
these “Mind Lines” as I like to call them, you’ll be able to guess a woman’s
type accurately in less than a minute.
Hence, One Minute Mind Reading.
By now, I can tell a woman’s type in under 30 seconds, flat. And when you’re
first starting, I’d estimate it will take you a maximum of 5 minutes. And once
you know her type, you only need to focus on just three things the ENTIRE
time you know her – from first words to sex, and more. So when you think
about it, all the effort and work you used to put into meeting girls is now
condensed into one, simple, 5 minute block of time. (And this block of “work”
gets smaller and smaller the more you do it)
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Here’s a quick preview of the three Mind Lines, and how they’re useful to you:
1) The Time Line – women worry about Time and Dating. She worries she
won’t find the right partner before her “youth” starts to fade. So, she either
dates around or she finds a guy and settles down. All women fall into one of
these two choices, and this Line tells you exactly how to approach.
2) The Sex Line – women have risks associated with Sex. Risks much bigger
than a man’s risks, including pregnancy and the risk of rape. However, sex
still feels very good and she’s driven to crave it. So, she’s going to justify her
decision to have sex in spite of the risks, or she’s going to deny that there are
any risks involved, at all. All women are one of these two types, and this Line
tells you how to get her into bed. (This line is the trickiest to read – and also the
most useful)
3) The Relationship Line – women have two different views on Relationships.
One woman wants to settle down with a white picket fence. The other woman
wants to focus on her career and be successful. All women want a relationship
that’s one of these two choices, and this Line tells you how to keep her.
In the next three Chapters, I’m going to show you all three Lines, and I’m going
to show you how they impact your dating life. (Plus, we’re going to take a
minute in each section to “read” this line of a famous celeb)
So let’s get crackin’...
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STEP 1: Read Her “Time Line”
“Why Is Talking To A Woman So Damn Difficult!?”
Do you want to date a bunch of women at once, then pick the best woman for
you? Or do you want to find a girl who’s “good enough” to be your girlfriend,
and then change her into the perfect girlfriend?
Just like you decided one option is better than the other, women like one option
better as well. Women are looking for a long term partner to settle down with.
And she has two ways to do this... either date a bunch of men at the same time,
and then pick the best guy. Or, she can date the first “good enough” guy that
comes along and try to change him. (That stereotype exists for a reason)
A girl who dates around - will never try to change a man, because she’ll simply
pick a better guy from her pool of suitors. A girl who invests her time in the first
guy who’s good enough will never play the field, because it distracts her from
her focus: Improving the guy she’s with.
When you know how to read her “Time Line”, you’ll be able to start
conversations with any girl that you meet... keep these conversations from
dying out as long as you wish... and make “rejection” a part of your dating past,
for good.
And every woman you meet falls into one of half of the Time Line, not both. If
you approach her with the wrong strategy, you’re dead in the water. This is why
starting a conversation is tough – one type of women responds to compliments,
and the other thinks compliments are demeaning.
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Already, you see why saying the same thing to all women works only 50% of
the time...
Do you approach
a woman with a
compliment?
Then your conversation is
going to die out with over
50% of women.
Including Megan Fox
(a compliment would be
a complete disaster)
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STEP 2: Read Her “Sex Line”
“Oh God... Oh God... Oh GOD!
Wait... No... Not Like That...”
Sex feels great. But let’s face it: If a woman sleeps around too much, she’s
labeled a slut. Plus, she’s more likely to get pregnant. And her risk of
getting an STD goes through the roof. However, she still wants to feel
the fun of sex, so she has a dilemma: Does she justify her sexual activities, or
does she deny she’s doing anything wrong?
A girl who denies she’s in a tricky sexual situation won’t sleep with you just
because you got her turned on.
A girl who justifies her sexual activity with statements like “I’m just a modern
woman” won’t sleep with you just because you make her feel safe.
When you know which girl she is, you’ll know how to turn her on, every
time... you’ll know when she’s ready to make your move... you’ll make her
chase you for sex... and you’ll know everything you should say and do, to
get her into bed.
But she will not go home with any man who appeals to the wrong one of her
sexual drivers. If you treat her romantically, she’ll leave you at the curb if she
only wants pleasure. And vice versa. So no matter what you do, if you do the
same thing around all women, you can only get 50% of all women to go home
with you.
Plus, women who date around don’t necessarily justify their sex drives. And,
women who look for the “right” man sometimes deny ever liking sex. So, if
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you were saying the same thing to all women, and using the same strategy to
bring her home... you currently only have a 25% shot of getting that girl you’re
interested in.
Not to mention... Not all women want the same relationship, in or out of bed...
Are you
romantic?
Then over 50% of women
will think you’re a weak
boyfriend
Including Eva Mendez
(she likes a more
practical man)
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STEP 3: Read Her “Relationship Line”
“Cheat On MY Boyfriend? You Must Be Kidding...” If you’ve seen any movie with a woman in it since 1990, you know that
women want two different lifestyles. First, there’s the woman who wants
to a be a housewife. Her main goal is to have a family, a white picket fence
and the perfect husband. She’s in her relationship for the long run.
Second, there’s the businesswoman who focuses on her career. Lots of movies
show her being a powerful force in the boardroom, and in the bedroom. So
many women try to follow in her shoes. She puts her family life on the back
burner to chase her own dreams. And her relationship is more realistic: She
knows divorce is very real in modern society. So she loves the man she’s with,
she’s just not naive.
An Idealist - A woman who’s focused on family and devoted to her partner -
won’t ever be tempted to leave her man to chase her own dreams.
A Realist - A woman who’s chasing a powerful goal - won’t ever settle for a
man who’s not motivated, or wants her to settle down into a picture-perfect
household.
When you know how to read her Relationship Line, you’ll keep your perfect
girl around without nasty fights or breakups... you’ll keep her loyal, no matter
what... and you’ll know how to get and keep her involved in your life. So
you’re sharing a relationship (to the point she’s comfortable in either a multiple
girl relationship, or even marriage if you want)
But if you treat a woman who wants a perfect home like a woman who wants a
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career, you’re toast. And vice versa. So using the same strategy to keep a happy
relationship only has a 50% shot of success.
And you can’t tell how she is in a relationship until you two finally settle down
together (at least until you sleep with her.) So if you use just one strategy to
meet women, you only have a 12.5% shot at making her your girlfriend. And
even if you’re batting one-thousand, and following a one-size-fits-all method
perfectly, seven out of eight times you’re going to suffer rejection.
So obviously, you need to adapt your approach, woman to woman. And as you
discovered in The System, this is easily done, once you know which of the 8
types of woman she is...
Do you like just cuddling
with your girl?
Then over 50% of women
are going to get bored of
your relationship.
Including Jessica Alba
(she needs fun dates
to stay interested)
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How To Use Pandora’s Box
This is the most important chapter of “The One Minute Mind Reader.” In this
very brief, yet very important page, I’m going to share with you everything
that’s possible once you unlock Pandora’s Box. (The system that the One
Minute Mind Reader concept comes from)
In fact, once you start to see the power of the Pandora’s Box System, you’ll
being to realize that the One Minute Mind Reader is just the tip of the iceberg!
Understanding the different steps of “Mind Reading” and being aware of
CRITICAL differences in a woman’s personality is just the first step to fully
realizing the full power of the Pandora’s Box System.
In the thousands of hours of testing, not one Trainer who knew this... not one
student we taught this to... not even the camera guy who watched the initial
shooting ever met a woman Pandora’s Box didn’t work on. We seduced her
easily using the ideal approach, using custom fit conversation, our custom
tailored sexual advances and of course, we presented her with the perfect
relationship.
In a paraphrased line from one of my favorite movies of all time (Boiler Room):
“Now you know what’s required, let me tell you what’s possible...”
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Customizing Your Tools To Attract the RIGHT Type of Women – Trust me,
there’s nothing worse than learning some brand new techniques only to find
out they only work on the WRONG type of woman, and actually REPEL the
sweet, perfect girlfriend you’re looking to attract. When you have an in depth
understanding of Pandora’s Box, you’ll know EXACTLY which kinds of tools
work on which kind of women. So you can LASER TARGET your approaches,
your conversational tools and other behaviors to insure you are getting GREAT,
AMAZING women that suit your own taste.
Be Part Of An Elite Secret Society– Very few men will ever know what you
know. Very few men make her feel the way you make her feel. When you
know the Pandora’s Box System, no man alive will have the tools to take her
from you, or keep her from you. And because you’re part of such a small and
elite group, it’s incredibly empowering to know that a woman is YOURS with
absolute certainty.
Decoding “Woman Speak” - No more double talk, and not knowing what
she means. No more flirty dates that end with “I don’t like you like that” You’ll
know what she means and always be a step ahead. Above and beyond decoding
her “female language” you will be able to fully understand her emotions,
predict her behavior, and ultimately know her better than she knows herself.
Not only will you become an absolute authority in her life, but in the beginning
stages, when you know her specific charactertype, you’ll know EXACTLY
what type of date will appeal to her, when you can go in for that kiss, and when
she’s ready for physical intimacy. The difficult once again becomes easy.
Be Flashy, Be Fun – Pandora’s Box lets you know any girl’s thoughts within a
minute of meeting her. Think of a time your friend got an attractive girl in front
of you and how jealous it made you... Now flip that around. It’s like having a
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woman’s best friend sitting on your shoulder telling you exactly what she likes,
exactly what to say, and exactly how to take it to the next level. Other guys will
never know what hit them, and beg you to let them in on your secret. But if
you’re like most men I meet, you’ll keep them all to yourself.
Stone-Cold Confidence – I love this term because it implies immovable
strength. Women will feel this power when you use these secrets, because
you understand her world and what makes her tick. There’s something about
knowing a subject SO WELL that it just gives you superhuman confidence.
Some guys are experts in computers, some guys are experts in cars and trust
me, once you know the Pandora’s Box System you’re going to be a stone-cold
EXPERT in the Female Mind.
The Perfect Man – You’ll be her ideal man. Someone she couldn’t live
without. Someone she’s happy with, all the time. Exactly as you are... without
lying, hiding or shielding yourself. She’ll fall in love with – or simply go
home with – You. This is because you ALREADY have all of the necessary
characteristics to attract any woman you want INSIDE YOURSELF. It’s
simply a matter of knowing which parts of yourself to highlight to her, and
exactly when to highlight them. It simplifies the dating process tremendously
because instead of having dozens and dozens of tools, and having to GUESS
which ones to use, (and get it wrong most of the time) I’m going to show you
the EXACT set of tools (and the number of tools necessary is usually between
3-5) to show her that you are absolutely perfect for her.
“Approach Anxiety” - I’ve discovered that the more certain you are of
success, the less afraid and anxious you get about things. Think of Olympic
Athletes – no fear. It makes talking to women FUN again… because it gives
you the perfect focus – you are simply curious about her and finding out her
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charactertype… Talking to women will become something you WANT to
do because it’s like solving a fun little puzzle, and in the end it gives you
MASSIVE rewards. So many guys are suffering so much frustration because
they are trying to FORCE the wrong type of key into the wrong type of lock.
And just like a key that doesn’t fit a lock, women will reject men that use the
WRONG type of approach and tools.
Conversations That Never End – Conversation becomes easy because if
there’s one thing women LOVE to talk about – is themselves – and how
they think. Pandora’s Box is going to make you a P.h.D. in Female Sexual
Psychology, and when you know women better than they know themselves,
running out of things to say will become a thing of the prehistoric past. And
what’s even better, not only will they look to you as an authority, but the ability
to talk about psychology, namely SEXUAL psychology, your ability to get them
having sexual thoughts with you will have a dramatic increase.
Turn Your Friends Into Girlfriends – Pandora’s Box is perfect for turning
friends into girlfriends. You’re only friends with her because you’re not “that
guy” in SOME way. You’re missing something that HER TYPE desperately
needs. You’ll figure it out & fix it... FAST. And once you fix it, the key will
work, almost like magic. You’ll go from friend to soul mate, literally overnight.
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If You Want To Know More...
Thanks for reading One Minute Mind Reading, from The Pandora’s Box
System. You got this book because you were curious exactly what a
woman’s thinking, and how knowing this can help you meet women
with a sniper’s accuracy. You’ll get any woman you want. Your conversations
will never die. And it’s all because you’ll know her “type” and know her
deepest desires better than she knows herself.
If you’d like to know more – including how to quickly identify a woman’s type, and
find out exactly what specific tools turn her on or make her fall in love – I’d like
to give you more information. And I’d like to give you this information, for free.
Simply go to this page, scroll to the bottom and sign up for the Live Event.
March 7th, 2010 you’ll be invited to a ground-breaking announcement I can’t
share with you here, but the details will make meeting women easier than it’s
ever been before. It’s going to completely change the landscape of how men
interact with women. And I look forward to seeing your amazing success.
Simply click this link, scroll down to the bottom and snag one of the last
remaining seats at this Event, before the deadline is gone forever. And keep
this book somewhere safe. Because once you know the entire Pandora’s Box
System – One Minute Mind Reading will open a world of opportunity for you.
And meeting women will never have been so fun. Or so easy.
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About The Author
Vin DiCarlo has been teaching men how to
meet women for the past 5 years, ever since
recovering from a break-up, then pulling
himself up out of near depression to amazing
success with women.
His best-selling book The Attraction Code has
been read in over 64 countries, in 3 different
languages and on all 6 populated continents,by
thousands of men who fanatically recommend
it to their friends.
He’s been interviewed and featured on CBS Radio, Playboy Radio, Sirius Radio
and on Google News. He’s done features for Pickup Podcast, taught a seminar
at Syracuse University, and was featured in a 7 page article in Boston Magazine
– as a citywide phenom in his hometown of Boston – which is read by over
600,000 men per month.
Vin currently lives in the New York City area and spends his free time playing
jazz guitar, romancing women and delving into female psychology.
Vin DiCarlo
packed into this Handbook and the Pandora’s Box System...
Different Types of Women? . 1
the only three things you’ll ever need to know about a woman...
An Unusual Discovery in Female Sexual Psychology . 3
how an argument with my girlfriend led to a dramatic discovery...
1,062 Women In Just 90 Days . 5
sounds like a lot of fun? you bet it was...
Read Her Mind In Just 3 Simple Steps 7
these important tricks tell you exactly what she’s thinking...
STEP 1: Read Her “Time Line” . 9
things to do and traps to avoid when you first meet a woman...
STEP 2: Read Her “Sex Line” . 11
things to do and traps to avoid when you’re trying to get her home...
STEP 3: Read Her “Relationship Line” 13
things to do and traps to avoid when you want to keep her around...
How To Use Pandora’s Box . 15
how to use these techniques to ditch rejection, forever...
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What Is One Minute Mind Reading?
by Vin DiCarlo
Have you ever wondered why women flirt one minute, and then
reject you if you make a move? How about what she really means,
behind all of her woman speak? Maybe you’d like to know when
or if a woman’s attracted to you... or how a specific woman would like to be
approached... or even specific topics of conversation proven to never die, or
leaving you searching for words while your mind goes blank.
I used to think that if I could read a woman’s mind, there would be so much less
guesswork. But until now, trying to guess what she’s thinking was literally that
– a blind guess. A shot in the dark. And overall, a waste of your time.
And because you couldn’t know what she’s thinking, all methods designed to
meet women relied on the same methodology, when you boil them down:
Step 1. Meet a woman.
Step 2. Say X, Y, Z to her
Step 3. Hopefully have sex with her.
Step 4. Rinse and repeat
With Step 4. Rinse and repeat being the worst offender of all. Because until
now, we didn’t know how to see why each woman is unique. And we couldn’t
tell her particular “flavors” of conversation, or preferences in a man. So all
techniques, even the ones I’ve taught you, were simply handed to you with
these instructions, “Say this to every beautiful woman you meet.”
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And hey, sometimes it works. Especially if the techniques came from a credible
source. But the dirty secret most pickup artists don’t want you to know is a 25-
50% success rate is astoundingly high. Even most men who professionally meet
women only succeed in picking up one out of four women they like.
Why so low? Well, I’ll explain that in just a second... the real question is why
not a different technique for each and every woman you meet? Well, that’s
simple: Using the same technique is the SAFE way to meet women.
But the problem is, “safe” isn’t attractive to women.
Only absolute certainty and confidence is attractive.
And in the pages of this book – One Minute Mind Reading – this is exactly
what I’m going to give you: Complete Certainty over what she’s thinking, so
you’ll know what to say to her... you’ll know how to turn her on... and you’ll
keep a girl you like around forever, without even one painful fight or breakup.
This is a big promise, so I know you’re going to be skeptical. That’s fine,
you don’t need to believe me yet. Simply give me a minute of your time and
suspend your disbelief, until I finish explaining exactly how this system works,
to you.
Because by the end of this book, you’ll know with absolute certainty that you
can meet any girl you want, and have a near 100% shot at making her attracted
to you.
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Different Types of Women?
I’ve spent the last ten years training hundreds and hundreds of men around
the globe. They’ve learned how to meet, attract and start relationships with
the women of their dreams. And when I first meet a guy, and watch him
interact with women… I realize he’s already going a lot of things right!
I suspect that you and the average man I train are alike, in certain aspects. For
example: He knows a lot of techniques, probably more than he can effectively
use. He knows great ways to start conversations, and some tricks to keep it
going. He has a few techniques he knows to go for that first kiss and more…
… So he knows enough “stuff,” but he isn’t getting the results he wants. I
notice that this is usually because he’s using “the right stuff” on the wrong kind
of woman. Let me explain:
Let’s take a compliment. Compliments are dynamite when used on the right
type of woman. Tell the right girl that her eyes are beautiful, and she melts like
winter snow. Her eyes go all “puppy dog” and she gently smiles back at you.
Tell this same compliment to another girl, and she simply shrugs it off. No
reaction. Not even a flinch.
Why would a compliment work that powerfully on one woman, and not even
register an effect on the other? It’s simple: Women are different. Women are
unique. And because she’s different and unique, she likes different things from
a man.
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Take two equally attractive women, for instance:
One woman has been with only three men in her life (all past boyfriends). She
has a serious boyfriend who walks her home from work every weekend. And
she goes to church with her family, every Sunday morning at 11am. Most of her
free time outside of dating is spent learning how to cook – her passion.
Another woman has slept with more than 30 men. She is constantly hit on,
because of how she dresses and carries herself. She’s worked as a stripper, as
a bartender and most recently a nude model. Most of her free time outside of
dating is spent starting a business, because she wants to be self-sufficient.
Would you really expect to say the same thing to both of these women, and
still have them both be attracted to you? Of course not, because all women
are different.
So you simply need to understand how different, and in what ways she’s
unique and you’ll have all the information you need to hold custom, tailored
conversations with her, that make her strongly attracted to you, each and
every time.
In order to do this, let’s find out just how unique she is...
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An Unusual Discovery In
Female Sexual Psychology
One day, I was with a girlfriend I had been with for 3 years. We had
just gotten into an argument about something so petty, I can’t even
remember what the argument was. I was tired, I had just gotten home
from a long day of work and the last thing I wanted to do was to fight. So I told
her, sarcastically, “Whatever baby. I’m in this for the long haul.” Making a joke
about being tied down.
I was expected for her to get mad. Instead, she stopped dead in her tracks, she
got all teary-eyed and she started making out with me. It felt like she had fallen
in love – and become incredibly aroused – by a simply comment I made. A
sarcastic one, at that!
It seemed like a strange situation to me. After all, with my past experiences with
women I knew that saying “Whatever baby” shouldn’t make a girl aroused like
that… but it did… Then I got to thinking, what if the comment being sarcastic
didn’t matter. What if she simply wanted to hear, “Baby, I’m in this for the long
haul” and as soon as I said it, it triggered her emotionally.
I thought back to times I had said odd things to girls and had them work. I
realized that the girls this worked on all had very odd things in common. For
instance: Girls who fell for unusual compliments tended to date around a lot
more than other girls. And girls who responded well to really romantic gestures
tended to have more partners than other girls, as well.
And all of a sudden it hit me... what if all women weren’t the same, but all
women weren’t different either? I started seeing partners in the women I’d
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dated, and I noticed a few “character types” coming up more than others.
The second I had that thought, a shudder ran down my spine. At that point I
knew I was onto something huge. And you’re about to learn something that will
make dating any woman and having sex with her, much easier...
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1,062 Women in 90 Days
At this point, I had all the information I needed. We’d been teaching
men around the world how to meet women for 5 years. So the
techniques that worked to turn women on, to keep women interested
and to make a woman attracted to you were already there. I focused on finding
out more about a woman’s innermost desires:
Me and my Trainers got our hands on every book on female psychology there
is. Titles like “Unhooked: How Young Women Pursue Sex, Delay Love, And
Lose At Both” by Laura Sessions Stepp, “Engendered Lives: A New Psychology
Of Women’s Experience” by Ellyn Kaschak, “Dilemmas of Desire” by Deborah
L. Tolman... as well as about a dozen more big books, and hundreds of
academic articles.
And we also started interviewing women. 1,062 to be exact. We interviewed
women by phone, we used surveys we set up... We found girls on Craigslist,
Facebook and of course, we meet over 630 of these women the old fashioned
way – walking up to her and saying hi.
Some of these women were “in” on the experiment. Many of these women were
not. All of these women lead to deeper understanding of how each woman is
unique, and most importantly, how you can use this uniqueness to make her
attracted to you.
During this time, we made an astonishing discovery -
Women do indeed have character types! And not simple “personality test” types
like Good Girl / Bad Girl, Party Girl or Cougar, either. There are 8 types of
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women in the same way there are 16 Myers-Briggs personality types.
And while we were coming up with these different types of women, then testing
them out in field to make sure our findings were accurate, we stumbled onto 3
simple questions that let you know exactly what she’s thinking or feeling at any
given time.
These simple questions tell you her type, and open up her mind so it’s easy to
read... so conversation keeps flowing for ever and ever... so you can turn her on
using the perfect words at the perfect times... and so you’ll never suffer through
a messy breakup with a girl you loved.
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Read Her Mind in Just 3 Simple Steps
Awoman’s thoughts aren’t that complex, just like my thoughts aren’t
that complex. Your thoughts aren’t that complex. You see, we’re all
capable of imagining an infinite number of things, but we spend most
of our time thinking about a handful of topics. We call this “mental habits” and
everybody’s got a few.
Individually, your mental habits are so different than mine, that if we laid
them out on paper, we could easily tell them apart. However, pick a topic like
dating... Or pick an even more important topic, like sex... And our mental habits
probably look exactly the same.
I spend time thinking about sex, and imagining the women I want. I have
fantasies and desires that are – statistically – pretty similar to yours. And
women function the same way, as well. Take all the women in the world, break
down their mental habits and you’ll find they think about dating and sex – a
LOT. More importantly, they focus on three main topics. These are the three
main topics we’re going to “mind read” and when you get skilled at reading
these “Mind Lines” as I like to call them, you’ll be able to guess a woman’s
type accurately in less than a minute.
Hence, One Minute Mind Reading.
By now, I can tell a woman’s type in under 30 seconds, flat. And when you’re
first starting, I’d estimate it will take you a maximum of 5 minutes. And once
you know her type, you only need to focus on just three things the ENTIRE
time you know her – from first words to sex, and more. So when you think
about it, all the effort and work you used to put into meeting girls is now
condensed into one, simple, 5 minute block of time. (And this block of “work”
gets smaller and smaller the more you do it)
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Here’s a quick preview of the three Mind Lines, and how they’re useful to you:
1) The Time Line – women worry about Time and Dating. She worries she
won’t find the right partner before her “youth” starts to fade. So, she either
dates around or she finds a guy and settles down. All women fall into one of
these two choices, and this Line tells you exactly how to approach.
2) The Sex Line – women have risks associated with Sex. Risks much bigger
than a man’s risks, including pregnancy and the risk of rape. However, sex
still feels very good and she’s driven to crave it. So, she’s going to justify her
decision to have sex in spite of the risks, or she’s going to deny that there are
any risks involved, at all. All women are one of these two types, and this Line
tells you how to get her into bed. (This line is the trickiest to read – and also the
most useful)
3) The Relationship Line – women have two different views on Relationships.
One woman wants to settle down with a white picket fence. The other woman
wants to focus on her career and be successful. All women want a relationship
that’s one of these two choices, and this Line tells you how to keep her.
In the next three Chapters, I’m going to show you all three Lines, and I’m going
to show you how they impact your dating life. (Plus, we’re going to take a
minute in each section to “read” this line of a famous celeb)
So let’s get crackin’...
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STEP 1: Read Her “Time Line”
“Why Is Talking To A Woman So Damn Difficult!?”
Do you want to date a bunch of women at once, then pick the best woman for
you? Or do you want to find a girl who’s “good enough” to be your girlfriend,
and then change her into the perfect girlfriend?
Just like you decided one option is better than the other, women like one option
better as well. Women are looking for a long term partner to settle down with.
And she has two ways to do this... either date a bunch of men at the same time,
and then pick the best guy. Or, she can date the first “good enough” guy that
comes along and try to change him. (That stereotype exists for a reason)
A girl who dates around - will never try to change a man, because she’ll simply
pick a better guy from her pool of suitors. A girl who invests her time in the first
guy who’s good enough will never play the field, because it distracts her from
her focus: Improving the guy she’s with.
When you know how to read her “Time Line”, you’ll be able to start
conversations with any girl that you meet... keep these conversations from
dying out as long as you wish... and make “rejection” a part of your dating past,
for good.
And every woman you meet falls into one of half of the Time Line, not both. If
you approach her with the wrong strategy, you’re dead in the water. This is why
starting a conversation is tough – one type of women responds to compliments,
and the other thinks compliments are demeaning.
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Already, you see why saying the same thing to all women works only 50% of
the time...
Do you approach
a woman with a
compliment?
Then your conversation is
going to die out with over
50% of women.
Including Megan Fox
(a compliment would be
a complete disaster)
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STEP 2: Read Her “Sex Line”
“Oh God... Oh God... Oh GOD!
Wait... No... Not Like That...”
Sex feels great. But let’s face it: If a woman sleeps around too much, she’s
labeled a slut. Plus, she’s more likely to get pregnant. And her risk of
getting an STD goes through the roof. However, she still wants to feel
the fun of sex, so she has a dilemma: Does she justify her sexual activities, or
does she deny she’s doing anything wrong?
A girl who denies she’s in a tricky sexual situation won’t sleep with you just
because you got her turned on.
A girl who justifies her sexual activity with statements like “I’m just a modern
woman” won’t sleep with you just because you make her feel safe.
When you know which girl she is, you’ll know how to turn her on, every
time... you’ll know when she’s ready to make your move... you’ll make her
chase you for sex... and you’ll know everything you should say and do, to
get her into bed.
But she will not go home with any man who appeals to the wrong one of her
sexual drivers. If you treat her romantically, she’ll leave you at the curb if she
only wants pleasure. And vice versa. So no matter what you do, if you do the
same thing around all women, you can only get 50% of all women to go home
with you.
Plus, women who date around don’t necessarily justify their sex drives. And,
women who look for the “right” man sometimes deny ever liking sex. So, if
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you were saying the same thing to all women, and using the same strategy to
bring her home... you currently only have a 25% shot of getting that girl you’re
interested in.
Not to mention... Not all women want the same relationship, in or out of bed...
Are you
romantic?
Then over 50% of women
will think you’re a weak
boyfriend
Including Eva Mendez
(she likes a more
practical man)
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STEP 3: Read Her “Relationship Line”
“Cheat On MY Boyfriend? You Must Be Kidding...” If you’ve seen any movie with a woman in it since 1990, you know that
women want two different lifestyles. First, there’s the woman who wants
to a be a housewife. Her main goal is to have a family, a white picket fence
and the perfect husband. She’s in her relationship for the long run.
Second, there’s the businesswoman who focuses on her career. Lots of movies
show her being a powerful force in the boardroom, and in the bedroom. So
many women try to follow in her shoes. She puts her family life on the back
burner to chase her own dreams. And her relationship is more realistic: She
knows divorce is very real in modern society. So she loves the man she’s with,
she’s just not naive.
An Idealist - A woman who’s focused on family and devoted to her partner -
won’t ever be tempted to leave her man to chase her own dreams.
A Realist - A woman who’s chasing a powerful goal - won’t ever settle for a
man who’s not motivated, or wants her to settle down into a picture-perfect
household.
When you know how to read her Relationship Line, you’ll keep your perfect
girl around without nasty fights or breakups... you’ll keep her loyal, no matter
what... and you’ll know how to get and keep her involved in your life. So
you’re sharing a relationship (to the point she’s comfortable in either a multiple
girl relationship, or even marriage if you want)
But if you treat a woman who wants a perfect home like a woman who wants a
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career, you’re toast. And vice versa. So using the same strategy to keep a happy
relationship only has a 50% shot of success.
And you can’t tell how she is in a relationship until you two finally settle down
together (at least until you sleep with her.) So if you use just one strategy to
meet women, you only have a 12.5% shot at making her your girlfriend. And
even if you’re batting one-thousand, and following a one-size-fits-all method
perfectly, seven out of eight times you’re going to suffer rejection.
So obviously, you need to adapt your approach, woman to woman. And as you
discovered in The System, this is easily done, once you know which of the 8
types of woman she is...
Do you like just cuddling
with your girl?
Then over 50% of women
are going to get bored of
your relationship.
Including Jessica Alba
(she needs fun dates
to stay interested)
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How To Use Pandora’s Box
This is the most important chapter of “The One Minute Mind Reader.” In this
very brief, yet very important page, I’m going to share with you everything
that’s possible once you unlock Pandora’s Box. (The system that the One
Minute Mind Reader concept comes from)
In fact, once you start to see the power of the Pandora’s Box System, you’ll
being to realize that the One Minute Mind Reader is just the tip of the iceberg!
Understanding the different steps of “Mind Reading” and being aware of
CRITICAL differences in a woman’s personality is just the first step to fully
realizing the full power of the Pandora’s Box System.
In the thousands of hours of testing, not one Trainer who knew this... not one
student we taught this to... not even the camera guy who watched the initial
shooting ever met a woman Pandora’s Box didn’t work on. We seduced her
easily using the ideal approach, using custom fit conversation, our custom
tailored sexual advances and of course, we presented her with the perfect
relationship.
In a paraphrased line from one of my favorite movies of all time (Boiler Room):
“Now you know what’s required, let me tell you what’s possible...”
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Customizing Your Tools To Attract the RIGHT Type of Women – Trust me,
there’s nothing worse than learning some brand new techniques only to find
out they only work on the WRONG type of woman, and actually REPEL the
sweet, perfect girlfriend you’re looking to attract. When you have an in depth
understanding of Pandora’s Box, you’ll know EXACTLY which kinds of tools
work on which kind of women. So you can LASER TARGET your approaches,
your conversational tools and other behaviors to insure you are getting GREAT,
AMAZING women that suit your own taste.
Be Part Of An Elite Secret Society– Very few men will ever know what you
know. Very few men make her feel the way you make her feel. When you
know the Pandora’s Box System, no man alive will have the tools to take her
from you, or keep her from you. And because you’re part of such a small and
elite group, it’s incredibly empowering to know that a woman is YOURS with
absolute certainty.
Decoding “Woman Speak” - No more double talk, and not knowing what
she means. No more flirty dates that end with “I don’t like you like that” You’ll
know what she means and always be a step ahead. Above and beyond decoding
her “female language” you will be able to fully understand her emotions,
predict her behavior, and ultimately know her better than she knows herself.
Not only will you become an absolute authority in her life, but in the beginning
stages, when you know her specific charactertype, you’ll know EXACTLY
what type of date will appeal to her, when you can go in for that kiss, and when
she’s ready for physical intimacy. The difficult once again becomes easy.
Be Flashy, Be Fun – Pandora’s Box lets you know any girl’s thoughts within a
minute of meeting her. Think of a time your friend got an attractive girl in front
of you and how jealous it made you... Now flip that around. It’s like having a
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woman’s best friend sitting on your shoulder telling you exactly what she likes,
exactly what to say, and exactly how to take it to the next level. Other guys will
never know what hit them, and beg you to let them in on your secret. But if
you’re like most men I meet, you’ll keep them all to yourself.
Stone-Cold Confidence – I love this term because it implies immovable
strength. Women will feel this power when you use these secrets, because
you understand her world and what makes her tick. There’s something about
knowing a subject SO WELL that it just gives you superhuman confidence.
Some guys are experts in computers, some guys are experts in cars and trust
me, once you know the Pandora’s Box System you’re going to be a stone-cold
EXPERT in the Female Mind.
The Perfect Man – You’ll be her ideal man. Someone she couldn’t live
without. Someone she’s happy with, all the time. Exactly as you are... without
lying, hiding or shielding yourself. She’ll fall in love with – or simply go
home with – You. This is because you ALREADY have all of the necessary
characteristics to attract any woman you want INSIDE YOURSELF. It’s
simply a matter of knowing which parts of yourself to highlight to her, and
exactly when to highlight them. It simplifies the dating process tremendously
because instead of having dozens and dozens of tools, and having to GUESS
which ones to use, (and get it wrong most of the time) I’m going to show you
the EXACT set of tools (and the number of tools necessary is usually between
3-5) to show her that you are absolutely perfect for her.
“Approach Anxiety” - I’ve discovered that the more certain you are of
success, the less afraid and anxious you get about things. Think of Olympic
Athletes – no fear. It makes talking to women FUN again… because it gives
you the perfect focus – you are simply curious about her and finding out her
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charactertype… Talking to women will become something you WANT to
do because it’s like solving a fun little puzzle, and in the end it gives you
MASSIVE rewards. So many guys are suffering so much frustration because
they are trying to FORCE the wrong type of key into the wrong type of lock.
And just like a key that doesn’t fit a lock, women will reject men that use the
WRONG type of approach and tools.
Conversations That Never End – Conversation becomes easy because if
there’s one thing women LOVE to talk about – is themselves – and how
they think. Pandora’s Box is going to make you a P.h.D. in Female Sexual
Psychology, and when you know women better than they know themselves,
running out of things to say will become a thing of the prehistoric past. And
what’s even better, not only will they look to you as an authority, but the ability
to talk about psychology, namely SEXUAL psychology, your ability to get them
having sexual thoughts with you will have a dramatic increase.
Turn Your Friends Into Girlfriends – Pandora’s Box is perfect for turning
friends into girlfriends. You’re only friends with her because you’re not “that
guy” in SOME way. You’re missing something that HER TYPE desperately
needs. You’ll figure it out & fix it... FAST. And once you fix it, the key will
work, almost like magic. You’ll go from friend to soul mate, literally overnight.
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If You Want To Know More...
Thanks for reading One Minute Mind Reading, from The Pandora’s Box
System. You got this book because you were curious exactly what a
woman’s thinking, and how knowing this can help you meet women
with a sniper’s accuracy. You’ll get any woman you want. Your conversations
will never die. And it’s all because you’ll know her “type” and know her
deepest desires better than she knows herself.
If you’d like to know more – including how to quickly identify a woman’s type, and
find out exactly what specific tools turn her on or make her fall in love – I’d like
to give you more information. And I’d like to give you this information, for free.
Simply go to this page, scroll to the bottom and sign up for the Live Event.
March 7th, 2010 you’ll be invited to a ground-breaking announcement I can’t
share with you here, but the details will make meeting women easier than it’s
ever been before. It’s going to completely change the landscape of how men
interact with women. And I look forward to seeing your amazing success.
Simply click this link, scroll down to the bottom and snag one of the last
remaining seats at this Event, before the deadline is gone forever. And keep
this book somewhere safe. Because once you know the entire Pandora’s Box
System – One Minute Mind Reading will open a world of opportunity for you.
And meeting women will never have been so fun. Or so easy.
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About The Author
Vin DiCarlo has been teaching men how to
meet women for the past 5 years, ever since
recovering from a break-up, then pulling
himself up out of near depression to amazing
success with women.
His best-selling book The Attraction Code has
been read in over 64 countries, in 3 different
languages and on all 6 populated continents,by
thousands of men who fanatically recommend
it to their friends.
He’s been interviewed and featured on CBS Radio, Playboy Radio, Sirius Radio
and on Google News. He’s done features for Pickup Podcast, taught a seminar
at Syracuse University, and was featured in a 7 page article in Boston Magazine
– as a citywide phenom in his hometown of Boston – which is read by over
600,000 men per month.
Vin currently lives in the New York City area and spends his free time playing
jazz guitar, romancing women and delving into female psychology.
Vin DiCarlo
How to Flirt
- 1Lower your expectations. Flirting is fun, but only if you don't take it too seriously. Most of the time, you'll just flirt with someone for a short time and then maybe never talk to them again. If you always go in to flirting expecting to date or even marry the person you're flirting with, you're going to be very disappointed--and you'll probably seem a little desperate. Remember, you're just flirting.
Lower your expectations.
- 2Look approachable. Relax and smile. Use your body language to give signals that you are the fun person that you are, and to show that you're comfortable and confident. There's nothing to be nervous about.
- 3Read body language. Does the person look approachable? Do they appear interested in you? From the moment you see someone with whom you might want to flirt, you should read his or her body language. Once you're actually flirting with the person, body language is often the only way to tell if the person is actually interested in you. Most of us have a natural ability to read body language, but it's easy to misread signals, so be careful and take it slow. If you see one signal that indicates the person is interested in you, watch for other signals that might confirm that.
- 4Make eye contact, but not for more than a moment or two. Do not stare. Just shoot the person a quick gaze, smile with your eyes, and then slowly look away. If you look back and notice the person looking back to meet your eyes, they're likely interested in flirting a bit.
- 5Initiate a conversation with the person you're interested in. If you don't already know them simply make small talk. Perhaps the best way to strike up a conversation is to start with a simple observation which ends with a question: "Nice day, isn't it?" or "This place sure is packed, eh?" are just a couple examples. What you say isn't important. You don't really need an answer to the question; you are simply inviting the person to talk with you. If the person responds pleasantly, continue the conversation. If the person doesn't respond or seems preoccupied or disinterested, he or she probably isn't interested in flirting with you. At the beginning of the conversation, you don't want to talk about anything personal. Talk about the environment around you, the show you just saw, etc., but don't talk much about yourself and don't ask the other person personal questions.
- 6Gradually share information about yourself in a reciprocal manner. If this small talk goes well, proceed to share a little information about yourself--just something small like what you do for a living or how you liked the show you just saw, for example. At some point, of course, you'll want to introduce yourself and, hopefully, get the other person's name. The key to sharing information is that you both gradually open up. Take turns talking, and each time the other person gives you some information about himself or herself, give similar information about yourself, and maybe give slightly more personal information than that person gave. For example, if you're talking to a girl who says she's taking summer classes, you might disclose that you are also taking summer classes, and then proceed to tell her which class you are most excited about. This invites her to disclose more information about herself. In this manner, the intimacy of the conversation increases over time. You don't want to share too much about yourself too quickly, and you shouldn't try to get the other person to do so either.
- 7Give the person your complete attention. Laugh at their jokes, listen to their stories, and don't get distracted by what's going on around you. It's more important to seem interested than to seem interesting, and you don't want to hog the conversation. Being a good listener is far more important to successful flirting than being witty.
- 8Use body language to hint at your romantic intentions. If things are going really well, you might want to try to break the touch barrier. Touch his or her arm briefly and gently as you talk. Or be more assertive and hold the person's hand when you cross the street, or if walking to a seat or a table, lead them by gently holding their arm. Touching in this manner helps break a "personal space" barrier. Pay attention to red flags, because some people have "personal space" issues and you don't want to make them uncomfortable. It is also essential to keep the hands warm. The touch with a cold hand unconsciously makes the person judge you as frigid. Have in mind that seduction is a synonym of body warmth! In general, women can get away with touching much earlier in a conversation than men can. Many women feel a little threatened when a man they just met enters their personal space, while most men are more open to being touched. In any case, proceed with caution, and back off if you get negative or mixed signals from the person.
- 9Close the deal. Most flirting is just harmless fun, and nothing will ever come of it. Every now and then, though, you'll meet someone who you'd like to see again and who you think would also like to see you again. Flirting is, after all, a type of courting ritual, a way to meet potential boyfriends or girlfriends, maybe even your future spouse. Don't worry about wedding plans just yet, though; start by getting the person's phone number. For most people, this is the hard part, because you have to actually make your intentions known, and in doing so you risk rejection. Be brave. Tell the person you'd like to see him or her again, and just ask for their phone number or, if it feels right, try to set up a date for some future time. If the person isn't interested, don't sweat it. There'll always be another guy or girl to flirt with
how to kiss a woman
Never underestimate the power of the perfect kiss. Get it right, and the rest will fall into place.
It has been theorized that a woman decided within five minutes of meeting a man whether or not she will have sex with him. Possibly true, but there is one catch. Most women I know, myself included, may initially decide we'll have sex with a guy, but when we find out he's a bad or a mediocre kisser, we change our minds entirely. We decide we will never have sex with this guy. He won't even get asked for a nightcap, much less for breakfast the next morning. As our lips part while we stand on the doorstep, we will announce that we have an early-morning meeting or (if you were really awful) that we're actually already married to someone else.![[Woowoo- Cary Grant punches Eva Marie Saint'sTicket in North by Northwest]](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/blogger_img_proxy/AEn0k_ukZpkLWsOR8S_bqCk9oFxH_32vxJhLr1yvvK3rdo8EOy3ZoiquNTEAsWdtOFL0KmoGOGva39pqYp82UrT3CuWg1dbYd1lp1hcvAvJEWuo9Paw=s0-d)
What we will never, ever say is, "God, you're a lousy kisser. I was going to have sex with you until just this moment." This is one of the ways in which men and women differ. If a man is very attracted to a woman but discovers she's a bad or mediocre kisser, he'll probably have sex with her anyway if presented with the opportunity. A woman can't get past a bad kiss. (Unless, of course, she's a horrible kisser herself, but we're not talking about those women here.) Experience has shown most women that a bad kiss only spells trouble down the road, so to speak. After all, if he hasn't mastered kissing and fails to see its sensual possibilities, what hope is there for, ahem, anything else?
The disappointment of a bad kiss is a recurring topic of discussion among a group of single women I run with in the park several times a week. "It tuens into a fabric softener thing," says Nora, a blond from Dallas, when describing the previous night's date. "You know, where the guy kisses you and it's so bad but you've got to finish it up so your mind wanders and you start wondering if you have enough fabric softener to do two loads of laundry the next day?" She laughs. "So I'm thinking about that, and the guy says, "Wow! You're very passionate."
Oh, the egos we would crush if men could hear the post-mortems. If any guys happen to be running with us, they immediately demand to know what exactly constitutes a bad or good kisser. So we tell them about the all-purpose litmus test: A bad kisser, reguardless of whether he likes to secrete a gallon of drool or waggle his head like a dog menacing a bone, seems to be simultaneously thinking: " When can we get to step two? And three and four? Is she aroused yet? can I put my hand on her breast now?" He sees kissing as the next step on a carnal quest. The good kisser, however, sees the kiss as the destination itself. He kisses as if he will never do anything else with this woman, as if he never wants to do anything else with this woman. He kisses as if this is what he's been dying to do for years and he wants to savor every moment. I guarentee you that this is when the woman decides there will be other activities on the agenda.
The first thing to remember: When in Doubt, Go Slowly. make that first kiss slow and gentle and easy. While you may want to demonstrate that you're a cauldron of seething desire, save that for later, when you're both sufficiently warmed up. In the meantime, resist the urge to mash your face against hers so hard your teeth collide and she ends up with brush burns from your stubble. One woman in our running group actually passed out during a particularly bad kiss of this sort, when the man pressed his face to hers so tightly he blocked off her nose with his cheek, mistook her thrshing for passion, and suddenly felt her body go limp. "i was out for maybe thrity seconds," she says. "Fortunately, he had me in a bear hug, so I didn't hit the group. Of course, he thought I passed out because the kiss was so good." This is what's known as the Harrison Ford School of Making Out. Watch him in the movies,a nd watch his costar's face get twisted out of shape from the sheer force. this is also why they're panting afterward. It's not from desire, it's oxygen deprivation. So the second thing to remember while kissing is to make sure she can still breathe through her nose.
There are other movie stars who perpetuate bad kissing styles. There's the Tom Cruise Method (as seen in Top Gun), whereby his tongue is already slithering out before he's met her lips. This is also referred to as the Lizard-King Style, and once lip-locked, it may also feature the rather grotesque tongue-insterted-rapidly-in-and-out. Most women do not cherish the idea of kissing a large anaconda, which is what this must be similar to. Equally unappealing is when the guy's tongue seems to be on a thorough search for any food trapped between the woman's molars. This is her tongue's job, not yours. The only response possible is for the woman to open her mouth wide and remain motionless while he finishes his routing, a posture that calls to mind trips to the dentist.
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Like good sex and great dancing, any tongue action should involve a give-and-take, with both parties allowed the opportunity for interaction in a saliva-laden minuet. Get into a groove with this, and every now and then you may want to stop for a short time while still joined at thelips. Like being on a dance floor and suddenly holding your partner motionless, it can have the galvanizing effect of heightening the sensation. this is ideally practiced in places like a dark booth in a dive bar with a great jukebox. Just make sure your sleeve doesn't catch fire from the candle on the table.So although no one wants a tongue completely jammed down her throat, neither do we want its exact opposite, as favored by Woody Allen, one of the screen's all-time-worst kissers. Check out the last scene in Hannah and Her Sisters, and you'll see him pecking away at Dianne Wiest. This Road-runner-eats-birdseed style of dry, repeated kisses accompanied by inordinately loud smacky sounds is not what any woman fantasizes about--even if she's weird enough to fantasize about kissing Woody Allen. The occasional smacky sound is inevitable and can exciting, but go easy on the moaning and groaning. Its sounds fake at best and, at worst, like an unconscious habit, like tuneless whistling.
Daniel Day-Lewis belongs in the kissing hall of fame for Best Use of Hands. He gently caresses his costar's face and touches her hair, a model of how hands can increase the erotic pleasure of the moment. Bear in mind the hands should not be used to prevent the woman from going anywhere or to clamp her head into one uncomfortable position. Remember most women like men to toy gently with their hair. After decades of bad press about sticky hairsprays and helmet hair, most of us have been using products to enhance "touchability" and are favoring hairstyles that look good a bit tousled. So go ahead and touch hair. And quit using all that sticky hairspray and goo so we can go back to touching yours.
Finally, I offer this suggestion: Try opening your eyes. I once cautiously opened my eyes while kissing and saw a pair of brown eyes staring back at me, which made the kiss even better because it became more intimate. Some people find this to be an impossible task (like sneezing with your eyes open), but while the prevailing belief is that we must try to block out all other sensations, you may find that kissing with your eyes open is the sensual equivalent of making love with the lights on. And if you're going to be kissing for several hours in a make-out bar, it's a good idea to peek periodically at the where-abouts of your drinks, her purse, and your wallet.
Everything You’ve Ever Wanted to Know About Kissing
Ever wondered why people enjoy kissing in the first place? Or what move guarantees you to land that next date, even if you don’t have the slightest clue how to kiss?
Most people think that kissing comes natural and there is nothing to learn. Well, this is not true for most of us. Kissing is definitely an art, and it reguires practise and experience if you want to become a good kisser. No one is born a master.
Kissing 101: Your Complete Guide To Kissing Tips and Techniques
If you stress about whether or not you are a good kisser, this is the right place to be. Everyone can learn how to kiss properly, and you make no exception for that. This blog will be your one-stop shop for all things related to the amazing, spine-tingling, toe-curling world of kissing!
Become a Super-Kisser!
Michelle Penney has helped singles and couples of all ages from all over the world to improve their kissing techniques. If you really want to master your kissing skills, her “Kissing 101” book is definitely the best way to do that. This book has been around since 2004 and it still continues to be one of the most popular electronic kissing tutorials.
Here are just a little of what you’ll find inside the book:
Kissing 101: Your Complete Guide To Kissing Tips and Techniques
Now, take your time and familiarize with the resources you find here. Besides kissing, you will find a lot of other romance and dating related information. Hopefully you get something useful out of them.
Most people think that kissing comes natural and there is nothing to learn. Well, this is not true for most of us. Kissing is definitely an art, and it reguires practise and experience if you want to become a good kisser. No one is born a master.
Kissing 101: Your Complete Guide To Kissing Tips and Techniques
If you stress about whether or not you are a good kisser, this is the right place to be. Everyone can learn how to kiss properly, and you make no exception for that. This blog will be your one-stop shop for all things related to the amazing, spine-tingling, toe-curling world of kissing!
- There’s plenty of debate as to how humans first learned how to kiss. However, kissing as we know it was probably perfected by ancient Romans, who used kissing on the mouth and eyelids to greet each other and seal bargains. Just imagine doing that with the cashier clerk at your local store!
- A recent online poll pegged that “the most important part of kissing” was the use of hands. Not surprisingly, incorporating your hands when learning how to kiss will guarantee that you’ll get that second date. Try cupping the person’s face with your hands, or running your hands through their hair. If you’re feeling more lustful, gentle tug on the person’s hair and lightly drag your nails on their scalp. They’ll be readying for more than just kissing after that move!
- The same poll also indicated that the things that ruin kissing the most are: too much saliva, using too much tongue, chapped lips and traveling hands. So keep your hands at a PG level, and learn to master the art of the French kiss before introducing any tongue action!
- Don’t restrict your kisses to the mouth area; in fact, the ears, neck and shoulders all make great places to give a quick kiss or two. For a sweet gesture, kiss your partner’s shoulder the next time they wear a tank top. Or whisper something romantic in their ear and give it a gentle kiss. And don’t forget the power of neck kisses – just don’t leave any hickeys, as they’re a kissing faux pas!
- If you want to make your partner take the kissing initiative, then perfect this move: tilt your head slightly to your right and slowly look at their face. Your eyes should follow this motion: look at their eyes, then their nose, back to their eyes, and finally, linger on the lips. You’ll be kissing in no time flat!
Become a Super-Kisser!
Michelle Penney has helped singles and couples of all ages from all over the world to improve their kissing techniques. If you really want to master your kissing skills, her “Kissing 101” book is definitely the best way to do that. This book has been around since 2004 and it still continues to be one of the most popular electronic kissing tutorials.
Here are just a little of what you’ll find inside the book:
- Full color step-by-step photos how to kiss
- Master the art of the french kissing
- What it takes to kiss someone for the first time
- What to do if someone doesn’t want to kiss you back
- What makes the most romantic and exciting kisses
- How to identify all the embarrassing things to avoid
- Learn some crazy and spontaneous things to do
- How to make someone want to kiss you
- The differences in perception between men and women when it comes to kissing
Kissing 101: Your Complete Guide To Kissing Tips and Techniques
Now, take your time and familiarize with the resources you find here. Besides kissing, you will find a lot of other romance and dating related information. Hopefully you get something useful out of them.
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How to Skype
- Download Skype from Skype.com.
- Create an account.
- 3Create your contacts; On a Mac, at the bottom of the main Skype window, click the + sign at the bottom of the page, and for a PC, above the (if you haven't already downloaded) contacts box, click the head, and + sign "Add New Contact" button, then (for both computers) follow the search instructions listed.
- 4Once they are added, tell the contacts when you would like to Skype them.
- 5To Skype a contact, check to see if they are online, by looking at the icon in front of their username, click on their contact on the main screen, and click the green circular phone button.
- 6To end the call click on the red circular phone button at the bottom of the screen that popped up when you called the person.
- 7If you want to just chat press the blue button this will open up a chat box and you can chat realtime.
- 8Enter your text in the bottom box and press enter or click on the enter button.
- 9Text speak is ok to use just be aware not everyone knows it.
To start Skype
If it's your first time opening Skype:
Open Skype on your computer. That means double-clicking this icon on your desktop or choosing it from the Windows > Start menu. Having trouble? Launch it from here. This will open a start-up screen.
Click Don't have a Skype Name?
This opens a Create account window.
This opens a Create account window.
Type in your name, then create a Skype username (called a Skype Name) and a password.
- Pick ones you can remember so you can sign in next time.
- Follow the directions from there and click Sign in.
- Pick ones you can remember so you can sign in next time.
- Follow the directions from there and click Sign in.
If you've opened Skype before:
Open Skype from your desktop or Windows > Start menu.
In the start-up screen, click in the box under Skype Name and type it in. Then do the same for your password.
(If you forget your password, click the Forgot your password? link and follow the directions from there.)
(If you forget your password, click the Forgot your password? link and follow the directions from there.)
This will sign you in to Skype, ready for you to use.
Parts of the Sun
Although
the Sun just looks like a fiery ball of plasma in space, it’s actually broken up into different parts. Let’s take a look at each of the parts of the Sun, starting from the middle.
Core
Deep within the Sun is the core; a part of the Sun where the temperatures and pressures are so great that nuclear fusion reactions can take place. The core of the Sun accounts for about 0.2 solar radii, and it’s the hottest part of the Solar System with a temperature of close to 15 million kelvins. Energy pours out of the solar core because of thermonuclear reactions that convert hydrogen into helium. In fact, 3.6 x 1038 protons are converted into helium nuclei every second. This releases 3.8 x 1026 watts of energy every second.
Radiative Zone
Surrounding the core is the Sun’s radiative zone. This part of the Sun is hot and dense enough that energy from the core can radiate outward. Ions of hydrogen and helium emit photons. These photons travel a short distance and then are absorbed by another ion nearby. Photons make a slow journey up through the radiative zone in this way, Astronomers believe that a single photon might take 100,000 years to journey through the radiative zone.
Convective Zone
In this outer part of the Sun, the solar plasma isn’t hot and dense enough to transfer energy through radiation. Instead it uses a process called convection, similar to a lava lamp, where thermal columns carry heat from the edge of the radiative zone up through the convective zone to the surface of the Sun. The plasma in the thermal columns release their heat and then sink back down through the convective zone to heat up again.
Photosphere
The part of the Sun that we can see is called the photosphere. This is the point where photons generated at the core of the Sun can finally reach space. Below the photosphere and the Sun is opaque to visible light. And above the photosphere, becomes the Sun’s atmosphere. This is also the region where we see sunspots, and where solar flares and coronal mass ejections are generated.
We have written many articles about the Sun for Universe Today. Here’s an article about how the Sun alters the Earth’s climate, and here’s an article about the Sun’s future.
You can learn more about the Sun from NASA. Here’s NASA’s World Book on the Sun, and here’s more information from the Jet Propulsion Laboratory.
We have also recorded an entire episode of Astronomy Cast about the Sun. Listen to it here, Episode 30: The Sun, Spots and All.
References:
NASA: The Solar Interior
NASA StarChild: The Sun
the Sun just looks like a fiery ball of plasma in space, it’s actually broken up into different parts. Let’s take a look at each of the parts of the Sun, starting from the middle.Deep within the Sun is the core; a part of the Sun where the temperatures and pressures are so great that nuclear fusion reactions can take place. The core of the Sun accounts for about 0.2 solar radii, and it’s the hottest part of the Solar System with a temperature of close to 15 million kelvins. Energy pours out of the solar core because of thermonuclear reactions that convert hydrogen into helium. In fact, 3.6 x 1038 protons are converted into helium nuclei every second. This releases 3.8 x 1026 watts of energy every second.
Radiative Zone
Surrounding the core is the Sun’s radiative zone. This part of the Sun is hot and dense enough that energy from the core can radiate outward. Ions of hydrogen and helium emit photons. These photons travel a short distance and then are absorbed by another ion nearby. Photons make a slow journey up through the radiative zone in this way, Astronomers believe that a single photon might take 100,000 years to journey through the radiative zone.
Convective Zone
In this outer part of the Sun, the solar plasma isn’t hot and dense enough to transfer energy through radiation. Instead it uses a process called convection, similar to a lava lamp, where thermal columns carry heat from the edge of the radiative zone up through the convective zone to the surface of the Sun. The plasma in the thermal columns release their heat and then sink back down through the convective zone to heat up again.
Photosphere
The part of the Sun that we can see is called the photosphere. This is the point where photons generated at the core of the Sun can finally reach space. Below the photosphere and the Sun is opaque to visible light. And above the photosphere, becomes the Sun’s atmosphere. This is also the region where we see sunspots, and where solar flares and coronal mass ejections are generated.
We have written many articles about the Sun for Universe Today. Here’s an article about how the Sun alters the Earth’s climate, and here’s an article about the Sun’s future.
You can learn more about the Sun from NASA. Here’s NASA’s World Book on the Sun, and here’s more information from the Jet Propulsion Laboratory.
We have also recorded an entire episode of Astronomy Cast about the Sun. Listen to it here, Episode 30: The Sun, Spots and All.
References:
NASA: The Solar Interior
NASA StarChild: The Sun
The Sun
Our Sun is a normal main-sequence G2 star, one of more than 100 billion stars in our galaxy. 
The Sun is by far the largest object in the solar system. It contains more than 99.8% of the total mass of the Solar System (Jupiter contains most of the rest).
It is often said that the Sun is an "ordinary" star. That's true in the sense that there are many others similar to it. But there are many more smaller stars than larger ones; the Sun is in the top 10% by mass. The median size of stars in our galaxy is probably less than half the mass of the Sun.
The Sun is personified in many mythologies: the Greeks called it Helios and the Romans called it Sol.
The Sun is, at present, about 70% hydrogen and 28% helium by mass everything else ("metals") amounts to less than 2%. This changes slowly over time as the Sun converts hydrogen to helium in its core.
The outer layers of the Sun exhibit differential rotation: at the equator the surface rotates once every 25.4 days; near the poles it's as much as 36 days. This odd behavior is due to the fact that the Sun is not a solid body like the Earth. Similar effects are seen in the gas planets. The differential rotation extends considerably down into the interior of the Sun but the core of the Sun rotates as a solid body.
Conditions at the Sun's core (approximately the inner 25% of its radius) are extreme. The temperature is 15.6 million Kelvin and the pressure is 250 billion atmospheres. At the center of the core the Sun's density is more than 150 times that of water.
The Sun's power (about 386 billion billion megaWatts) is produced by nuclear fusion reactions. Each second about 700,000,000 tons of hydrogen are converted to about 695,000,000 tons of helium and 5,000,000 tons (=3.86e33 ergs) of energy in the form of gamma rays. As it travels out toward the surface, the energy is continuously absorbed and re-emitted at lower and lower temperatures so that by the time it reaches the surface, it is primarily visible light. For the last 20% of the way to the surface the energy is carried more by convection than by radiation.
The surface of the Sun, called the photosphere, is at a temperature of about 5800 K. Sunspots are "cool" regions, only 3800 K (they look dark only by comparison with the surrounding regions). Sunspots can be very large, as much as 50,000 km in diameter. Sunspots are caused by complicated and not very well understood interactions with the Sun's magnetic field.
A small region known as the chromosphere lies above the photosphere.
The highly rarefied region above the chromosphere, called the corona, extends millions of kilometers into space but is visible only during a total solar eclipse (left). Temperatures in the corona are over 1,000,000 K.
It just happens that the Moon and the Sun appear the same size in the sky as viewed from the Earth. And since the Moon orbits the Earth in approximately the same plane as the Earth's orbit around the Sun sometimes the Moon comes directly between the Earth and the Sun. This is called a solar eclipse; if the alignment is slighly imperfect then the Moon covers only part of the Sun's disk and the event is called a partial eclipse. When it lines up perfectly the entire solar disk is blocked and it is called a total eclipse of the Sun. Partial eclipses are visible over a wide area of the Earth but the region from which a total eclipse is visible, called the path of totality, is very narrow, just a few kilometers (though it is usually thousands of kilometers long). Eclipses of the Sun happen once or twice a year. If you stay home, you're likely to see a partial eclipse several times per decade. But since the path of totality is so small it is very unlikely that it will cross you home. So people often travel half way around the world just to see a total solar eclipse. To stand in the shadow of the Moon is an awesome experience. For a few precious minutes it gets dark in the middle of the day. The stars come out. The animals and birds think it's time to sleep. And you can see the solar corona. It is well worth a major journey.
The Sun's magnetic field is very strong (by terrestrial standards) and very complicated. Its magnetosphere (also known as the heliosphere) extends well beyond Pluto.
In addition to heat and light, the Sun also emits a low density stream of charged particles (mostly electrons and protons) known as the solar wind which propagates throughout the solar system at about 450 km/sec. The solar wind and the much higher energy particles ejected by solar flares can have dramatic effects on the Earth ranging from power line surges to radio interference to the beautiful aurora borealis.
Recent data from the spacecraft Ulysses show that during the minimum of the solar cycle the solar wind emanating from the polar regions flows at nearly double the rate, 750 kilometers per second, than it does at lower latitudes. The composition of the solar wind also appears to differ in the polar regions. During the solar maximum, however, the solar wind moves at an intermediate speed.
Further study of the solar wind will be done by the recently launched Wind, ACE and SOHO spacecraft from the dynamically stable vantage point directly between the Earth and the Sun about 1.6 million km from Earth.
The solar wind has large effects on the tails of comets and even has measurable effects on the trajectories of spacecraft.
Spectacular loops and prominences are often visible on the Sun's limb (left).
The Sun's output is not entirely constant. Nor is the amount of sunspot activity. There was a period of very low sunspot activity in the latter half of the 17th century called the Maunder Minimum. It coincides with an abnormally cold period in northern Europe sometimes known as the Little Ice Age. Since the formation of the solar system the Sun's output has increased by about 40%.
The Sun is about 4.5 billion years old. Since its birth it has used up about half of the hydrogen in its core. It will continue to radiate "peacefully" for another 5 billion years or so (although its luminosity will approximately double in that time). But eventually it will run out of hydrogen fuel. It will then be forced into radical changes which, though commonplace by stellar standards, will result in the total destruction of the Earth (and probably the creation of a planetary nebula).
diameter: 1,390,000 km.
mass: 1.989e30 kg
temperature: 5800 K (surface)
15,600,000 K (core)
The Sun is by far the largest object in the solar system. It contains more than 99.8% of the total mass of the Solar System (Jupiter contains most of the rest). It is often said that the Sun is an "ordinary" star. That's true in the sense that there are many others similar to it. But there are many more smaller stars than larger ones; the Sun is in the top 10% by mass. The median size of stars in our galaxy is probably less than half the mass of the Sun.
The Sun is personified in many mythologies: the Greeks called it Helios and the Romans called it Sol.
The Sun is, at present, about 70% hydrogen and 28% helium by mass everything else ("metals") amounts to less than 2%. This changes slowly over time as the Sun converts hydrogen to helium in its core.
The outer layers of the Sun exhibit differential rotation: at the equator the surface rotates once every 25.4 days; near the poles it's as much as 36 days. This odd behavior is due to the fact that the Sun is not a solid body like the Earth. Similar effects are seen in the gas planets. The differential rotation extends considerably down into the interior of the Sun but the core of the Sun rotates as a solid body.
Conditions at the Sun's core (approximately the inner 25% of its radius) are extreme. The temperature is 15.6 million Kelvin and the pressure is 250 billion atmospheres. At the center of the core the Sun's density is more than 150 times that of water.
The Sun's power (about 386 billion billion megaWatts) is produced by nuclear fusion reactions. Each second about 700,000,000 tons of hydrogen are converted to about 695,000,000 tons of helium and 5,000,000 tons (=3.86e33 ergs) of energy in the form of gamma rays. As it travels out toward the surface, the energy is continuously absorbed and re-emitted at lower and lower temperatures so that by the time it reaches the surface, it is primarily visible light. For the last 20% of the way to the surface the energy is carried more by convection than by radiation.
The surface of the Sun, called the photosphere, is at a temperature of about 5800 K. Sunspots are "cool" regions, only 3800 K (they look dark only by comparison with the surrounding regions). Sunspots can be very large, as much as 50,000 km in diameter. Sunspots are caused by complicated and not very well understood interactions with the Sun's magnetic field. A small region known as the chromosphere lies above the photosphere.
The highly rarefied region above the chromosphere, called the corona, extends millions of kilometers into space but is visible only during a total solar eclipse (left). Temperatures in the corona are over 1,000,000 K. It just happens that the Moon and the Sun appear the same size in the sky as viewed from the Earth. And since the Moon orbits the Earth in approximately the same plane as the Earth's orbit around the Sun sometimes the Moon comes directly between the Earth and the Sun. This is called a solar eclipse; if the alignment is slighly imperfect then the Moon covers only part of the Sun's disk and the event is called a partial eclipse. When it lines up perfectly the entire solar disk is blocked and it is called a total eclipse of the Sun. Partial eclipses are visible over a wide area of the Earth but the region from which a total eclipse is visible, called the path of totality, is very narrow, just a few kilometers (though it is usually thousands of kilometers long). Eclipses of the Sun happen once or twice a year. If you stay home, you're likely to see a partial eclipse several times per decade. But since the path of totality is so small it is very unlikely that it will cross you home. So people often travel half way around the world just to see a total solar eclipse. To stand in the shadow of the Moon is an awesome experience. For a few precious minutes it gets dark in the middle of the day. The stars come out. The animals and birds think it's time to sleep. And you can see the solar corona. It is well worth a major journey.
The Sun's magnetic field is very strong (by terrestrial standards) and very complicated. Its magnetosphere (also known as the heliosphere) extends well beyond Pluto.
In addition to heat and light, the Sun also emits a low density stream of charged particles (mostly electrons and protons) known as the solar wind which propagates throughout the solar system at about 450 km/sec. The solar wind and the much higher energy particles ejected by solar flares can have dramatic effects on the Earth ranging from power line surges to radio interference to the beautiful aurora borealis. Recent data from the spacecraft Ulysses show that during the minimum of the solar cycle the solar wind emanating from the polar regions flows at nearly double the rate, 750 kilometers per second, than it does at lower latitudes. The composition of the solar wind also appears to differ in the polar regions. During the solar maximum, however, the solar wind moves at an intermediate speed.
Further study of the solar wind will be done by the recently launched Wind, ACE and SOHO spacecraft from the dynamically stable vantage point directly between the Earth and the Sun about 1.6 million km from Earth.
The solar wind has large effects on the tails of comets and even has measurable effects on the trajectories of spacecraft.
Spectacular loops and prominences are often visible on the Sun's limb (left). The Sun's output is not entirely constant. Nor is the amount of sunspot activity. There was a period of very low sunspot activity in the latter half of the 17th century called the Maunder Minimum. It coincides with an abnormally cold period in northern Europe sometimes known as the Little Ice Age. Since the formation of the solar system the Sun's output has increased by about 40%.
The Sun is about 4.5 billion years old. Since its birth it has used up about half of the hydrogen in its core. It will continue to radiate "peacefully" for another 5 billion years or so (although its luminosity will approximately double in that time). But eventually it will run out of hydrogen fuel. It will then be forced into radical changes which, though commonplace by stellar standards, will result in the total destruction of the Earth (and probably the creation of a planetary nebula).
The Sun's satellites
There are eight planets and a large number of smaller objects orbiting the Sun. (Exactly which bodies should be classified as planets and which as "smaller objects" has been the source of some controversy, but in the end it is really only a matter of definition. Pluto is no longer officially a planet but we'll keep it here for history's sake.)Distance Radius MassMore detailed data and definitions of terms can be found on the data page.
Planet (000 km) (km) (kg) Discoverer Date
--------- --------- ------ ------- ---------- -----
Mercury 57,910 2439 3.30e23
Venus 108,200 6052 4.87e24
Earth 149,600 6378 5.98e24
Mars 227,940 3397 6.42e23
Jupiter 778,330 71492 1.90e27
Saturn 1,426,940 60268 5.69e26
Uranus 2,870,990 25559 8.69e25 Herschel 1781
Neptune 4,497,070 24764 1.02e26 Galle 1846
Pluto 5,913,520 1160 1.31e22 Tombaugh 1930
More about the Sun
- more Sun images
- from NSSDC
- Stanford Solar Center
- Yohkoh Public Outreach Project, lots of good info, images and movies
- The University of Michigan Solar and Heliospheric Research Group's Web Space for Kids and Non-Scientists
- Today's Space Weather and index of solar images
- Solar Data Analysis Center
- Elemental abundances in the Sun
- Solar Eclipse info
- from Fred Espenak, Mr. Eclipse
- from Solar Data Analysis Center
- Sky Online's Eclipse Page
- Dale Ireland's Eclipses
- images by Bob Yen
- Umbraphilia, a personal account of the 1998 eclipse in the Caribbean
- National Solar Observatory / Sacramento Peak Image Index
- more info and links about sunspots
- historical info about sunspots
- Virtual Tour of the Sun by Michael Berger
- The Sun: a Pictorial Introduction, a slide set by P. Charbonneau and O.R. White
- The HK Project
- Ulysses Home Page
- Spartan 201, NASA's mission to explore the Sun's corona
- IACG Campaign IV: including lots of good references
- Lives and Deaths of Stars; notes by Nick Strobel of the University of Washington
- ESA/NASA's SOHO - Solar and Heliospheric Observatory home page
- articles by John Bahcall, many focusing on the solar neutrino problem
- Interview with Sol by Robert J. Nemiroff
- Solar Folklore, various myths about the Sun
Open Issues
- Is there a causal connection between the Maunder Minimum and the Little Ice Age or was it just a coincidence? How does the variability of the Sun affect the Earth's climate?
- Since all the planets except Pluto orbit the Sun within a few degrees of the plane of the Sun's equator, we know very little about the interplanetary environment outside that plane. The Ulysses mission will provide information about the polar regions of the Sun.
- The corona is much hotter than the photosphere. Why?
Fun Outdoor Things to do with Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend
You are so in love, but don't want to hang around the house snogging with your brother or sister getting in the way. Where can you go outside with your boyfriend or girlfriend, and what fun things can you do? To help you out, here are lots of ideas for fun things to do with your boyfriend that are free or relatively inexpensive.
The Great Outdoors has a fantastic range of interesting things to do outside, if you think creatively. It does help if it is a warm and sunny day, but there are still plenty of fun things to do with your boyfriend or girlfriend in winter.
Going to the park is always great as generally it means lazing around in the sunshine. You could make different coloured paper boats and put them on the lake, or have races with them in a stream.
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Something fun to do in the evenings along with watching the sunset with your boyfriend or girlfriend is lighting Chinese lanterns and letting them float into the sky. You do have to watch out for any local regulations regarding the use of Chinese lanterns though.
A sleigh ride or horse carriage ride together is a lovely things to do. It will cost you though. You can snuggle up together under a blanket and watch the scenery go by.
You could build a snowman together. Have a snowball fight, although this can often go rapidly downhill when you manage to get a snowball down your girlfriends neck. Perhaps make an igloo and snuggle up inside with some hot drinks and talk. You will be amazed at how warm an igloo is inside.
Make an ice slide. Find a nice flat stretch of snowy ground and carefully walk over it to compact the snow. Once it is fairly compact, you can then begin trying to slide on it. See how far you can slide without falling over.
You can make a fire and toast marshmallows.
If you are into winter sports, you and your boyfriend or girlfriend could go skiing, snowboarding, snowmobiling, sledging, or even better is ice skating (as you can hold hands). If you want to have a real laugh together, try snow tubing or doughnutting. this is where you go down a snowy slope whilst sitting in an enormous inflatable inner tube. If there isn't any snow about, you can do it at your local ski slope. We have compiled a list of free outdoor winter activities that you could do with your girlfriend or other friends.
If you don't fancy being truly outside, you could go shopping for winter hats. Find something fashionable or fun. Perhaps you can then find a cafe with a window seat and watch the world go by with your boyfriend or girlfriend and a nice hot cup of hot chocolate.
If you want ideas of fun activities and things to do outside that you can do with your friends, look at our Outdoor Activity Ideas List. Other cool activities to do with your boyfriend or girlfriend outside include:
The Great Outdoors has a fantastic range of interesting things to do outside, if you think creatively. It does help if it is a warm and sunny day, but there are still plenty of fun things to do with your boyfriend or girlfriend in winter.
 | Theme Parks, Fun Fairs and Amusement ArcadesSave some money and get yourself some discount theme park tickets. You and your boyfriend or girlfriend can scream your heads off on the fastest rides. If you aren't up for too many thrills, then there are plenty of more sedate rides. Look for a Tunnel of Love!For free fun things to do with your girlfriend or boyfriend, places like Brighton Pier provide a place to walk arm in arm, share chips or candyfloss, and enjoy a fun fair or amusements. You can even try to win your loved one a huge teddy. Hiking and Walking in the Woods or on the BeachHiking or just going for a walk can be very therapeutic. You can walk arm in arm exploring the countryside, and hopefully find a quiet spot to enjoy the scenery. It depends on where you are. If you live near the beach, you could go for a walk along the sand, paddle in the sea, or walk along the pier.Walk the DogIf one of you has a dog, taking it for a walk can be a great excuse to get out of the house and have some time to yourselves. You could go for a walk in the park, or if you have the day to spend together, go further afield. |
Daisy Chains
If there is a patch of grass near you that is quiet, you can see who can make the longest daisy chain. There is a definite art to it. Just imagine yourself lying in the park, the sun shining down on you and a pile of torn daisies at your feet where you haven't quite got the hang of it yet.Picnics
One of the nice things to do for your boyfriend or girlfriend is to put together a picnic and find a lovely spot to sit with your girlfriend or boyfriend by a river or in a park under a tree. You can spend hours eating, and laying in the sun. You can read stories and poetry to each other, and even write poetry just for the one you love.Camping
If you are wondering what to do with your boyfriend or girlfriend and if you are adventurous enough, you could go camping together. We have put together some tips on camping with your boyfriend or girlfriend. I would recommend only one night though. If you don't know each other that well, spending the entire time together can make or break relationships. You will need camping gear. If you don't have your own, you are certain to know someone who will lend you some. It is also best going to a proper campsite with facilities rather than trying to brave it in the wilds. Have a look at our camping kit list for ideas on what you will need to take with you.Pony trekking or horse riding
It can be great fun going horse riding with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Check out whether they like horses before you book anything though. There are pony trekking outings for an hour or even a day. Perhaps you can find one where you can ride together along the beach.Geocaching
If you have a handheld global positioning system (GPS), then you could go geocaching. Geocaching is where you get the coordinates for a hidden box and then use a GPS to find it. The boxes are usually small waterproof containers or ammo boxes with a log book inside. Some geocaches also have a few goodies such as a book or keyring. The principle is that you leave a new item in the box, and take one of the items out of the box. Look at our Geocaching page for more information on how to do it, where to Buy a GPS, and how to find out where there are hidden geocaches.Kite Flying
Power kites are fantastic fun and are strong enough to lift you off the ground. You could spend the day in the park or on the beach with your boyfriend or girlfriend flying your kite. Depending on your kite this could be relaxing, thrilling and definitely fun!Boating
You could take your boyfriend or girlfriend for a relaxing day outdoors on a boating lake. Perhaps there is a canal near you where you can hire a rowing boat, pedalo or punt. For the more adventurous of you, hire a kayak. Make sure you know how well your boyfriend or girlfriend can swim incase of emergencies.Things to do together at the beach
The beach is a fab place to spend time with your boyfriend or girlfriend. There are so many things to do in the sun together. You could make sandcastles or write each others' names in the sand with pictures. You could sunbathe and rub sun screen onto each other. Lie back and read a book, or perhaps read poetry to each other. You could write your own poetry for your girlfriend. | If you don't want to stay still, you could go for a walk along the beach or pier. Then there's swimming in the sea, body boarding, kite surfing, surfing and even sea kayaking. There is a great new toy call the Waboba Ball, which bounces when you throw it on water. Great fun for throwing and catching games with your boyfriend or girlfriend at the beach. On the shoreline, you can go roller blading with your boyfriend or girlfriend holding hands. Not only is this romantic, but it may help you to stay upright if you aren't that good on rollerblades. When you get tired, stop for an ice cream. If you have walkie talkies to chat for free with your friends, then you could leave your girlfriend sunning herself while you go to get the ice creams. You can keep in touch incase they have run out of the ice cream she ordered Go crabbing or rock pool exploringIf you and your boyfriend or girlfriend are looking for things to do on the beach together, you may have fun catching crabs, or use a net to catch fish and shrimps in rock pools. Watch out for the incoming tide! |
Dune Surfing
Another fun thing to do at the beach is dune surfing. If there are any dunes around, get hold of a cheap bodyboard from a seaside shop and career down the dunes. It's exhausting as you have you have to keep climbing back up again, but a real giggle. Plus, you can then use the bodyboard in the sea if there are any waves to jump around in.Watch the sunset together
Grab yourself some food and drink and go out into the countyside or to the beach together. Find somewhere with a view. Put your rug down on the ground and talk while watching the sunset. If you are allowed to stay out when it's dark, you could lay back and gaze up at the stars.Something fun to do in the evenings along with watching the sunset with your boyfriend or girlfriend is lighting Chinese lanterns and letting them float into the sky. You do have to watch out for any local regulations regarding the use of Chinese lanterns though.
Stargazing
Looking up at the stars together is so romantic. If you can find a place away from streetlights, such as a campsite or the beach, you will be able to see the stars much better. You may see a shooting star or even be able to spot satellites. Remember to wrap up warm though. You can talk about all sorts of things.Sit by a roaring fire
A nice fire on the beach as the sun sets could be the thing to do with your girlfriend ro boyfriend. Toast a few marshmallows.Wash the Car
You won't be far from the house, but at least you will be outside. Washing the car can be lots of fun, and will often end up with playing about with sponges and water going everywhere. Be certain that your partner doesn't mind before you decide to throw the whole bucket of water over them. You could make it into a money making enterprise by asking around the neighbourhood whether people want their cars washed. You will probably need the cash to get cheap car insurance for young drivers!Go Fruit Picking
There are plenty of places where you can go fruit picking. You can choose from strawberries, raspberries, grapes, apples, oranges, or whatever you can find. You don't even have to like the fruit you are picking. Go off with your boyfriend or girlfriend and collect lots of strawberries for your mum. It is a great activity to do together, and you may find that you eat most of what you pick before you get home.Make a rope swing
Make a rope swing - tyre, foot loop, plank for seat, over stream or river (not fast flowing).Fun Things to do With Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend in Winter
Even if it is cold and snowy, you and your boyfriend or girlfriend can have fun together. If you are fed up of being stuck indoors, then wrap up warm and get out in the fresh air. You can go for a walk in the country, which is more magical if it has been snowing. Take a flask with a hot drink in it so that you can stop at a nice viewpoint and keep warm.A sleigh ride or horse carriage ride together is a lovely things to do. It will cost you though. You can snuggle up together under a blanket and watch the scenery go by.
You could build a snowman together. Have a snowball fight, although this can often go rapidly downhill when you manage to get a snowball down your girlfriends neck. Perhaps make an igloo and snuggle up inside with some hot drinks and talk. You will be amazed at how warm an igloo is inside.
Make an ice slide. Find a nice flat stretch of snowy ground and carefully walk over it to compact the snow. Once it is fairly compact, you can then begin trying to slide on it. See how far you can slide without falling over.
You can make a fire and toast marshmallows.
If you are into winter sports, you and your boyfriend or girlfriend could go skiing, snowboarding, snowmobiling, sledging, or even better is ice skating (as you can hold hands). If you want to have a real laugh together, try snow tubing or doughnutting. this is where you go down a snowy slope whilst sitting in an enormous inflatable inner tube. If there isn't any snow about, you can do it at your local ski slope. We have compiled a list of free outdoor winter activities that you could do with your girlfriend or other friends.
If you don't fancy being truly outside, you could go shopping for winter hats. Find something fashionable or fun. Perhaps you can then find a cafe with a window seat and watch the world go by with your boyfriend or girlfriend and a nice hot cup of hot chocolate.
Any other bright ideas?
I am sure that you will think of plenty of other things to do outdoors and places to go with your boyfriend or girlfriend that don't cost any money. It doesn't have to be anything fancy, it is the thought that counts. Work on some romantic ideas, like putting a hand written poem in her bag. What ever you do, have fun and be safe.If you want ideas of fun activities and things to do outside that you can do with your friends, look at our Outdoor Activity Ideas List. Other cool activities to do with your boyfriend or girlfriend outside include:
- Zorbing or sphering by rolling down a hill in a big inflatable ball
- going to a zoo
- amusement and theme parks
- going to an arcade
- go to a festival or open air concert to see your favourite band
- laser tag or paintball
- People watching from outside a cafe
- photography
- dressing up and making funny videos
- bike riding
- Try a new sport together
- Learn to play a musical instrument together
- Do some art, drawing or painting
- playing frisbee
- Wild Swimming or water parks
- having a cookout
- Watch a sports event.
things to do for your boyfriend♥♥
1. Cook him his favorite meal and give him a surprise visit at work, school or football practice.
2. Treat him to the arcade and play one on one.
3. Learn three guitar chords and make him a song.
4. Join him in his favorite Sports game at least once.
5. Kiss him when he least expects it.
6. Leave a note in his bag pack telling him how much you’ll miss him.
7. Offer him a whole body massage.
8. Invite him over to the rooftop and stargaze all night.
9. Watch the sunset together.
10. Bring him to where you first met and then order the same thing.
11. Get drunk together at least once in your lifetime on a weekend.
12. Sing to him live — in front of his friends.
13. Send him a bouquet of flowers — for a change!
14. Walk hand in hand by the beach, barefoot.
15. Spray your cologne on his favorite shirt.
16. Spray your cologne all over his bed!
17. Don’t forget to tell him how much you love him at least once everyday.
18. Get on boat ride together. Let him row. Bring an umbrella.
19. While watching a movie in a theatre, whisper in his ear about your plans together later.
20. Always give him a long, mingling kiss before parting ways.
21) Wear his clothes.
22) Find a secluded place to lie and watch the stars.
23) Oils/ incense/ candles/ black lights and music make for great cuddling.
24) Kiss at every chance you get.
25) Cuddle up together and watch a romantic video/DVD.
26) Blindfold your date and take him to his favourite places.
27) Lightly kiss his collarbone and his jawbone just below the ear, then whisper “I love you”.
28) Keep your guy´s photo on the ledge while you take a bubble bath.
29) Go for a long walk on the beach at midnight.
30) Do oil portraits of each other.
31) Write poetry for each other.
32) Kiss/smell his hair.
33) Hugs are the universal medicine.
34) Say “I love you” only when you mean it and make sure he knows you mean it.
35) Give random gifts of flowers/ chocolates/ poetry, etc.
36) Tell him that he´s the only guy you would ever want – and mean it.
37) Spend every possible second together.
38) Tell him that he doesn´t need to do anything he doesn´t want to – and mean it.
39) Look into each other´s eyes.
40) Very lightly push up his chin, look into his eyes, tell him you love him, and kiss him lightly.
41) Talk to each other using only body language and your eyes.
42) When in public, only flirt with each other.
43) Walk behind him and put your hands in his front pockets.
44) Put love notes in his pockets when he isn´t looking.
45) Buy your guy some funky bathing or boxing shorts and write your name on the inside tag.
46) Buy him a ring with both your initials on it.
47) Keep one of his photos somewhere where you see it everyday.
48) Sing to each other.
49) Read to each other.
50) PDA = Public Display Of Affection.
51) Take advantage of any time alone together.
52) Tell him about how you answered every question in math with his name.
53) Draw something.
54) Let him sit on your lap.
55) Go hiking and camp out.
56) Lips were made for kissing, so were eyes, fingers, cheeks, collarbones, hands and ears.
57) Kiss his stomach.
58) Always hold him around his hips and sides.
59) Guys like half-shirts.
60) Take him to dinner.
61) Spaghetti? Feed it to him in a sexy way (like in Lady and the tramp).
62) Hold his hand, stare into his eyes, kiss his hand and then put it over your heart.
63) Unless you can feel his heart beating, you aren´t close enough.
64) Dance together.
65) Sit infront of a roaring fire and be affectionate.
66) Watch him sleep with his head in your lap.
67) If you´re strong (or he´s lightweight), carry him to bed if he´s fallen asleep at his house and leave a note before you leave.
68) Trampolines are fun, so jump on one together.
69) Do a puzzle together.
70) Stay up very late.
71) Do cute things like “I love you” in a note backwards.
72) Make excuses to call him every five minutes.
73) Even if you are really busy doing something, go out of your way to call and say “I love you”.
74) Call from your holiday spot to tell him you were thinking about him.
75) Remember your dreams and tell him about them.
76) Ride your bike 12 kilometres just to see him for a few hours.
77) Ride home and call him.
78) Tell each other your most sacred secrets and fears.
79) Somehow incorporate him into any kind of religion you have.
80) Be princess perfect to his parents (brownie points).
81) Discuss your dreams.
82) Brush his hair out of his face for him.
83) Stay up all night to think of 101 ways to be sweet to his parents.
84) Hang out with his friends (more brownie points).
85) Go to church together.
86) Take him to see a romantic movie and remember the parts he liked.
87) Cuddle together under a full moon on a clear night.
88) Learn from each other and don´t make the same mistake twice.
89) Everyone deserves a second chance.
90) Describe the joy you feel just to be with him.
91) Make sacrifices for each other.
92) Really love each other, or don´t stay together.
93) Write a fictional story about how you met/fell in love, etc. and give it to him.
94) Let there never be a second during any given day that you aren´t thinking about him, and make sure he knows it.
95) Stand up for him when someone is trashing him.
96) Learn to say sweet things in foreign languages.
97) Invent new nicknames for each other.
98) Fall asleep on the phone with each other.
99) Never forget the kiss goodnight and always remember to say “Sweet dreams!”
MORE:
1) Watch the sunset together.
2) Go to the circus together.
3) Back rubs/massages.
4) Listen to classical music and cuddle in the dark or with a black light turned on.
5) Kiss passionately.
6) Hold him with your hands inside the back of his shirt.
7) Whisper to each other.
Cook for each other.9) Go swimming in a lake.
10) Make out in the rain.
11) Dress each other in a new look.
12) Draw charcoal pictures of each other.
13) Kiss every part of his face.
14) Hold hands.
15) Wear his sports jacket to a class function.
16) One word? Caress.
17) Sit and talk about your day.
18) Buy gifts for each other.
19) Roses are a great gift for either sex.
20) Find out his favourite perfume and wear it everytime you´re together.